The Frequencies We Live By: Guilt vs. Desire as Fuel for Life

Most of us are conditioned from childhood to move through life powered by guilt. If we don’t, we’re told we are selfish, irresponsible, or unloving. Guilt whispers (or shouts) that we must do, give, and sacrifice—otherwise, we are not enough. This programming is so deep that we often don’t even realize we are running on it. It’s glamorized as “being a good person” or “doing the right thing.”

But guilt is a frequency of contraction. It pulls energy inward, like a vacuum of unworthiness. It creates actions that, no matter how well-intended, carry an undertone of lack, obligation, or self-punishment.

Compare that to the frequency of joy, pleasure, and desire. These energies radiate outward, expanding and creating effortlessly. When you move from desire, your energy is clean. There’s no hidden agenda, no silent hope for redemption. Just a clear, powerful YES to what lights you up.

And the universe responds in kind.

The Mother Wound & The Inheritance of Guilt

This programming often stems from the unhealed Mother archetype—the belief that love must be proven through suffering. If you are a parent (or had parents), you’ve felt this. The idea that if you don’t feel guilty, you must not care enough. That love is measured in how much you sacrifice, not in how much joy you embody.

But here’s the radical truth:

Guilt isn’t love. Guilt isn’t devotion. Guilt isn’t generosity. It’s self-punishment masquerading as virtue.

When I stopped parenting from guilt—guilt over what I couldn’t give, guilt over what I wished I had done differently—everything changed. I realized that guilt was about me, not them. It wasn’t making me a better parent; it was just tethering me to the past.

When I shifted into joy, desire, and pure presence, my relationship with my children transformed. Because the energy we act from is the energy that returns to us.

What Happens When You Shift to Desire & Joy?

When you move from guilt, you create more experiences that reinforce lack, unworthiness, and struggle.

When you move from desire, joy, and pleasure, life opens. Your relationships soften and expand. Opportunities flow. Love deepens. And the universe meets you at your frequency, multiplying your joy.

So ask yourself:

• Where in my life am I moving from guilt, obligation, or “shoulds”?
• What would shift if I allowed myself to move purely from desire, joy, and pleasure instead?

This is not just about doing different things. It’s about doing things from a different energy. That’s how you collapse timelines. That’s how you step into your highest reality. That’s how life turns on.

Yours in sovereign desire,
Sharon

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